Toxic Comparison: The Biggest Obstacle to Daily Happiness
May 15, 2022
Do you ever feel like you're not good enough? That you could be happier if only you looked like that person, had more money, or were thinner?
If so, then you are definitely not alone. In today's society, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. It's called toxic comparison, and it is one of the biggest obstacles to daily happiness.
What is Toxic Comparison?
Toxic comparison is the act of comparing oneself to others in a negative way. We compare our lives, appearances, accomplishments, and possessions to those of others.
Comparison is rampant. We are constantly exposed to images of people living perfect lives. This constant feeling of not being good enough can lead to envy and resentment and makes us focus on the wrong things, creating a distorted view of reality.
How comparison became a part of our society
First of all, it's not your fault - you've been trained to compare yourself to others from a young age.
We learn to compare our looks, abilities, and possessions early on. This is partly due to the way we are raised as our parents and teachers often compare us to others to motivate us.
Capitalism also greatly benefits from comparison. The advertising industry relies on our insecurities to convince us to buy things that we don't need.
Social media has made comparison even easier and more harmful. People like to display their best sides on social media.
Why comparison is inherently wrong
We all have different lives and circumstances. What is important for one person may not be for another. Some people value money and possessions more than anything else. Others may place more importance on family, friends, or personal growth. People that achieved success early in their lives most likely had to sacrifice other things.
While comparing yourself to others might help you push yourself to achieve more, it is ultimately not productive.
So what do we do then? Instead of comparing yourself to others, decide what's important for you and work on getting it in a calm way. Don't try to be someone that you're not. Embrace your quirks and differences. Focus on your own path in life, and be content with where you are. You'll find that this is a much happier way to live.
Comparison is toxic, and it's time to let go of it for good.
How to overcome toxic comparison
Overcoming the toxic comparison takes time and effort, but it is definitely possible. Here are a few tips that can help:
- Be mindful of the way that you are comparing yourself to others. Make sure that you are comparing apples to apples.
- Tolerate ambiguity. Don't try to have everything figured out all the time. It is impossible, and it will only lead to frustration.
- Be content with what you have. Don't strive for more until you are happy with what you have.
- Value your own opinion more than the opinions of others. Remember that everyone is different and has their own view on life.
- Embrace your quirks and differences. We are all unique and special in our own way.
- Focus on your own path in life. Don't try to replicate the path of others.
- Practice being happy for others when they achieve success. Try not to envy them or resent them. Wish them well and be happy for their accomplishments. They've most likely worked hard for it.
While comparing yourself to others might help you push yourself to achieve more, it ultimately leads to envy and resentment and makes you focus on the wrong things.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, try to be content with what you have and focus on your own path in life. You'll find that this is a much happier way to live.